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Amber Hawkins Status by Amber Hawkins Does holding the title of boyfriend/girlfriend validate your life? Many women strive to be in relationships, and crave to be “girlfriends”. Some are willing to be on anyone’s arm just to say they are with someone. Regardless of the caliber of the person, they are proud to point them out at the party and say, “that’s mine”. As far as women have come in the last decades, we still have a long way to go. We are not in a generation where you have to be married off by 20, or suffer the stigma of being an “old maid”. It’s okay to be alone, it teaches you a lot about yourself. Many women believe that having a partner will complete you, it won’t. Completeness comes from within. Having a partner should be like makeup: You are already cute, you just need to enhance some things. You won’t use the person to cover up who you are to the point when you are unrecognizable when natural. When you are with someone, you should take pride in the person they are, not the fact they are with you. I have heard many women say those frivolous lines, “He might be crazy, but at least he’s my man”. I don’t think so. If you are crazy the only person you should belong to is the State of Louisiana, not me! Some women are even willing to set aside their dignity to be with a man. Many women will withstand being cheated on, abused or unappreciated by their significant others, but cannot bear the thought of being alone. When my aunt divorced her cheating husband, she said, “I can do bad by myself”. I have used this saying as a way to evaluate many of the relationships I’ve had. If being with you is worse than being without you, because all you do is bring me down, to the left, to the left. Relationships are about growth. Regardless if the relationship withstands the test of time or ends, lessons should have been learned that will teach each party a lesson about life, making them grow as a person. If you cannot grow in your relationship, being someone’s “girl” is pointless. You were complete from birth, having a partner can compliment you, but it will not complete you. Contact Amber at AHawkins@b-now.com
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